So, I made a diary entry before about how I thought in another life, I would have liked to be a powerful women’s rights lawyer. Well, I’ve decided to do it in this life.
For four years of my life, I felt defeated. I felt like women were put down, and being subjected to sexual harassment, bullying, women who do not help or support other women, and being a victim to sexual abuse, I realized I had to do something.
When my sexual assault case became public, I received a lot of messages from other women claiming to have gone through similar issues. It seemed like the system was broken for a lot of women, who were victims to abuse.
In January 2018, I had my lowest point. I had never had to be hospitalized for depression before, but I felt like I had no choice but to try to die to escape everything that was going on in my life. By the grace of god, and the support of strangers and those who love me, and my own strength, I put one foot in front of another and kept my head up. I knew that one day it would all be over. A kind police officer told me I had a lot going for me, being a pretty girl, talented at singing, and that everything I was going through was just a process that would end soon. He confided in me about his own false arrest, where his ex-girlfriend had accused him of assaulting her. He was ultimately acquitted but related to the degrading feelings I had been dealing with.
Several months later, I saw an interview with Gloria Allred and that’s when I knew. I watched her documentary and she inspired me to go to law school on the side of my already busy singing career. Gloria has made it her mission to fight for Justice for women, and refuses to go away until there is justice for her client. She has stated that the women she represents all come in with tiny mouse voices and by the time she teaches them to be empowered, they are strong, bold women who stand up for themselves. She says she will continue to fight for justice for women from the grave if she can. She has inspired me to turn bad things into good as she was fueled by her own life experience as well.
My favourite quote by her is:
"I will go away when theres justice for my client, but until there is justice, I will be relentless in my quest for justice." ❤
I just wish that more people were kind and I wish that women would help other women, not tear them down. I have dealt with many women in my life from my mother feeling the need to tell me she was prettier than me at a young age, or telling me I won’t ever be a singer, to various female Detectives and lawyers, who have caused so much damage to my life, but still, I want to help women, because I don’t want women to hurt or feel sad, like I have. There is no need to tear other women down. When you tear down another woman, it means you are unhappy within.
I want to help women get justice for abuse and injustice inflicted on them. I want them to be okay, because every girl is beautiful and deserves to be happy, like how I feel in my life today.
My goal is to fast track through school and be able to represent victims of sexual assault and sexual harassment on a contingency basis, in civil law suits against their perpetrators, which will allow more women who may not have otherwise had the means to afford a lawyer, get a chance at justice, with someone who will not accept anything less for them. I want to reinstate women’s rights here in Canada, improve the laws, and make sure women are getting the civil justice they deserve. Sometimes all it takes is a judge accepting that something happened, improve a woman’s self esteem, and make her feel whole again. Every time get justice for my client, it will be emotional for me, I know that, because I remember how I felt when I was awarded for my sexual assault. It was like the dark clouds went away and the world was bright again.
I do think there are still many stereotypes about women, and I see that they are around even in other women’s minds. I hope to help break those stereotypes, by bringing more stories of genuine victims to the media, throughout my career, to show that we do need to do more as people to be there for women, who allege abuse. Something I would like to do in my lifetime as well, is create a fund to help women who are victims of abuse financially restart their lives. Dealing with Depression and trauma, can interfere with your financial situation and in domestic situations, often times, women don’t have much money to be independent.
You can read more about my story in http://www.jadenaraine.com/womens-rights-activist
One of my passions in life is food. I'm a huge foodie. I love fine dining, and cooking delicious and fresh foods. I like going grocery shopping daily by at the St. Lawrence Market, McEwen or Pusateri's. Any fine food specialty store. My favourite restaurants in the city so far, are; The Chase (both the seafood bar and the restaurant), Mortons, Ruth’s Chris, Sassafraz, Jacobs, and The Shore club. I also love a good simple seafood place, like Red Lobster, Rodney’s or Lbs. My favourite foods are Lobster, crab, oysters, steak and venison. I go to the Shore club a lot, just because I love the atmosphere. One, located in the Hazelton hotel Yorkville, used to be a good place too, but the food went downhill. Jacobs is a cool place because they make the Cesar salad in front of you, which is cool. It's made with fresh ingredients. Ruth’s Chris located in the Hilton Hotel is by far the best steakhouse in the city, as they cook their steaks with salted butter and parsley!
As far as cooking goes, I love cooking a variety of foods. Lamb sirloin, salmon or steak is a favourite with mashed potato and veg. I also enjoy cooking savoury soups, including, pumpkin beef, which is Jamaican delicacy. I enjoy making pasta's, and roast chickens. The best dressing for a roast chicken is sun dried tomato salad dressing. Below the chicken put some yukon gold potatoes, sweet potatoes, squash, carrots and kidney beans, for a delicious meal. The chicken should be put on broil, where it will come out moist and savoury. If you prefer, you can use chicken breasts as well. I also enjoy veal chops with apple puree. When it comes to breakfast and lunch I am pretty simple. I'm peckish all day, so enjoy having lots of fruits around in the kitchen; blueberries, nuts, oranges, as well as tuna and green apple for sandwiches on rye, sardines with tomato and rye, oatmeal, and hard boiled eggs. For sides, I usually do rices, either wild rice or jasmine rice, with kidney beans, or else sweet potato, a very nutritious choice, or steamed yukon gold potato. I drink a lot of a all natural cranberry juice with water. It's very refreshing and healthy for women, as it prevent's UTI's among other nutritious benefits.
For sweets, I have a huge sweet tooth and I usually have gobstoppers candy around. I enjoy cooking some sweets. Blueberry pie is a favorite, cherry pie, as well as lemon cupcakes that I make. I make them with a lot of lemon juice and zest. It's a vanilla cake with a lemon icing, with skittles sprinkled on top. Food will always be a passion of mine, luckily I have a good metabolism, so I stay nice and thin. I am pretty sure my career keeps me busy enough to burn off all those calories. My favourite kinds of cuisine are; Greek, Italian, Fine Dining, Canadian, Steak and Seafood.
I look forward to trying a lot more of the restaurants in Toronto. On my list are; Barbaryans, and George. Some places I like just for features are; Harbour sixty steakhouses' parmesan cheese mix that they give you with the bread; they blend it with olive oil, another cheese, and some spices, and it's just delicious. I also love their lobster and crab. Smith Brothers steakhouse in Scarborough is amazing for their hearty home cooked feel with gravy a large helping of mash and broccoli. Their Panko shrimp is to die for. Canoe also has a great view located in the TD tower. I also love the tuna tartar at the Keg, as much as the one at Mortons!
So much has happened to me over the last few years. If you've followed my life at all, you definitely would have noticed. Somehow in all of that, I am at peace. In the amount of horror I have been through, I have grown so much and have discovered how strong I truly am, who I am and who I want to be. I am not that broken little girl that I once was. In being emotionally abandoned by my parents as a child, it caused me to be very vulnerable. When a girl is abandoned she may attract the wrong types of people, and may be susceptible to vulnerable to difficult situations in her adult life, she may become an easy target for men or bullies, someone to be taken advantage of. They may find the girl weak and passive. I didn't understand a lot about people, and life. I was naive and I was thrown into a world that isn't always nice, with absolutely no guidance. No one to tell me to be careful. My life got really bad to a point where I could hardly breathe. I remember that day in January 2018. All I could think about was how to end my terrible life, but it was a day when I realized that nothing could get worse than it was and that it was only going to get better from there. I decided to take control of my life and find happiness within. I have never been happier than I am now. After filing a few Legally blonde looking claims, I studied the law, did hours of research on legal terms, case law. I put in the work and now people tell me I should be a lawyer and that I would be one of the best ones. I started speaking out about my life and some of the injustice I had endured and felt like a huge weight was lifted off of me each time. I knew that I was going to use this horrible life that was dealt so far as a gift, something to turn into something special. I am proud to say that I know exactly who I am now. I know exactly who I want to be, who I'm not and exactly where I am headed. Music is my love and it's my everything and I will be sharing it with you for the rest of my life. I want to inspire young girls and women everywhere to stay strong. I want to be an activist for change in social justice for women and abuse of power. I want to inspire tradition and being a good role model. I want to inspire kindness, which is something that we lack a lot of in this world. Most importantly, I want women to take a stand, fight for whats right and leave their mark in the world. I look up to many influential women, including; Meghan Markle, and Jennifer Lawrence. I am so grateful for all of the support from media, radio, television, and those closest to me for standing by me throughout these past four years. I look forward to sharing my story with you in both a book, and a based on a true story movie, when the time is right. Nothing comes easy, everything is difficult. But you have to decide if it's worth the fight. No matter what you have gone through; know that, taking control and actively making change while seeking justice for yourself will always heal. Remember;
"We can do the impossible. They say the odds are stacked against us But that can't hold us back, we will be relentless So let them say we can't do it, give us a mountain, and we're gonna move it." - Leann Rimes
I wanted to write a diary entry today about how I've been feeling lately in hopes that it will inspire you to keep smiling. So often we feel like people are judging us, laughing at us, we dwell over people who are mean to us or try to hurt us, are angry at us... for a while, I had been struggling with letting other people affect my life. Remember to let go. Every day, you need to remind yourself of all the good things that are going on. Maybe it's that you get to eat your favourite food today, or the rain, snow or sun is inspiring, that you get to see a loved one, that you get to work on your dreams. Let all the negetivity go, your skin doesn't like it, your heart doesn't like it and your head doesn't like it. Smile and remember these 3 things: 1) Don't ever let someone who gave up on their dreams, tell you to give up on yours. 2) Do what works for you in life. What may work for someone else, may not be right for you. They can judge you and you can judge them but at the end of the day, ignore their immaturity and love your decisions that you make for you! 3) Don't try to hold on or change people. So often we try and try to hold on to people in our lives. We are afraid of missing them, losing them, we want to change ourselves for them. This way of thinking can often be toxic and it's important what Marilyn said which is; it's better to be unhappily alone than unhappily with someone, and this goes for friends, relationships and even family. When you let go of any insecurities and all of the above, you will truly be able to experience, love and LIVE your life. Remember to capture every beautiful moment of life too and share with others. I personally love looking through instagram and seeing all of the beautiful pictures you all take. xo
Okay, so basically, on my way home from the studio, I noticed a posting for a fortune teller. I had heard of these people before who use cards and your palm and their intuitions to tell you what your future will be like when it comes to health, wellness, love and relationships and your career, but seriously aren't you scared? I feel like I wanted to know in the moment and it might still be cool to know but what if it says something really bad? I guess it would be fun to check out. I mean, we should still live our lives trying our best to be healthy, good in our relationships, and pursuing our goals no matter what. I still don't understand how these people can be psychic. Do you believe in this superstitious stuff?
You have probably seen my 1 year old Jack Russell terrier, Sage. I just wanted to say that Jack Russells are the cutest dog. I was watching family channel one evening, when the show with the talking dog came on, so I decided to submit her for some acting in commercials like; Fido or Telus, an agency more or less and they wouldn't take her! Every time I would leave her at the grocery store, everyone would surround her and take photos of her. By the time I got back there was a crowd around her. I never leave her anymore because I'm terrified someone will take her, but seriously... I cant believe they took the other boring looking Jack Russell at the agency and not mine. It just goes to show you how unfair the film and television industry is as they say. I was also hoping they wouldn't notice until on the set of Fido, that she really isn't that experienced with posing for the camera. ♥
Hey loves, welcome to my new website. I kind of felt like I had to make a new website as I start a brand new style of music. If you're an old fan, you would know that I used to be pop. I started out in Country music and somehow found my way doing pop, but Country has always been close to my heart. I feel so at home singing country music. I really look forward to making songs that I hope will touch you guys.